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More Than a Tear:<\/h2>\n

A Shiva Guide for Mourners and Consolers<\/h3>\n

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Shiva is one of the most recognizable terms in Judaism, and a practice that almost every Jew has experienced in one way or another. Nonetheless, few are prepared for Shiva before they experience it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This guide is designed to help the mourner navigate this difficult time in life, and to guide the consoler through the Mitzvah of comforting a grieving friend or relative.<\/strong><\/p>\n

By Yigal Segal
\nForeword by Dr. Marc Singer<\/p>\n

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\n<\/strong>A Shiva visit is truly one of Judaism\u2019s most difficult-to-master\u00a0acts of kindness. At first glance you might wonder, \u201cWhat\u2019s the big\u00a0deal about paying a Shiva call? All I have to do is walk in, sit down\u00a0for a few minutes and express my condolences.\u201d It sounds simple,\u00a0but even with the best of intentions, you might say something\u00a0improper or ask inappropriate questions. Out of embarrassment,\u00a0you might opt for condolence cards or in memoriam donations\u00a0from then on. Ultimately, that might deprive another mourner of\u00a0your empathic presence.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: <\/strong><\/p>\n

Yigal Segal received a Masters Degree in Administrative Science\u00a0from Johns Hopkins University and was ordained by the Ner\u00a0Israel Rabbinical College in Baltimore, Maryland. After serving for\u00a0five years as the Director of Development of the Torah Day School\u00a0of Atlanta, Georgia, he launched the Jewish Literacy Foundation\u00a0in 1998.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Yigal lives with his wife and children in Jerusalem.\u00a0He encourages feedback, questions, and comments via email at guidetoshiva@gmail.com <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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\"Flame\"<\/a>p.11 \u00a0<\/strong>Your natural response to grief is the right response for you. It\u00a0doesn\u2019t matter what you or others expect. It doesn\u2019t matter what\u00a0conventional wisdom dictates. The way you grieve is the way you\u00a0need to grieve.\u00a0This insight\u00a0is crucial if we are to understand a mourner\u2019s mindset. Everyone\u00a0grieves differently, no matter what circumstances cause the grief.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\"Flame\"<\/a>p.40<\/strong>\u00a0 The key to true comf<\/span>ort: making\u00a0mourners feel – not hear – that we are with them. We don\u2019t try to\u00a0understand their grief; we try to help them understand it in their\u00a0own way. We want to give mourners the help they need, not the\u00a0help we think they need.<\/span><\/p>\n

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